Homemaking: The Challenge for Women
This great purpose, this twenty-four hours a day job, this beautiful mess I live in each day…it is about so much more than meets the eye.
I feel like our society has done an inadequate job at preparing us for this task. Since the 1960’s our American society has told women to go off to college, be independent, figure out what inspires you, chase your dreams, get a great job, and acquire all the wonderful things you can dream of. We were told to establish ourselves in any way that we will be fulfilled. Make sure you get plenty of “me time,” go out with your friends, have lots of great hobbies.
So I went off to business school and lived an independent life full of friends, a little studying, and lots of good times. Then I graduated, got married, and started working while still keeping this lifestyle of independent living.
There’s nothing that can prepare you for the next phase of life besides diving right in…babies!
My Wake Up Call
I had my first child eight and a half years ago and became a stay at home mom. She was wonderful and I felt incredibly blessed! I floated through the first 6 months to a year just trying to figure her out. I was consumed with her in every way…nursing, diapers, planning everything around naps and sleep, wondering if she had gas or was getting new teeth.
Then came baby number two. He was equally as wonderful but all of a sudden, I was outnumbered. My husband is a teacher and coach, so that keeps him quite busy. I couldn’t run to the store easily anymore, couldn’t run off to visit with a friend. We were restricted by nursing and naps. The baby would nap in the morning and afternoon and my two year old would nap in between. It was incredibly difficult to adjust to this new, home bound reality.
Like I said, our society has taught us women to be independent and fulfilled selfishly. This has lead to a lack of contentment in our hearts as opposed to finding it in the simplicity of homemaking. I believe it took me about four or five years after having my first child to adjust my heart and my mind to finding that contentment I had been searching for.
What I’ve Learned
Finding contentment in my heart took many challenging discussions with my husband, often blaming him for these expectations he could not meet or fulfill in me…but this topic is for another day. What I ultimately had to do was take these feelings to Jesus, ask him how He could be enough for me and change my attitude toward this stage of life I was/am in.
Every time we have a bad attitude about something in our lives, isn’t it a reflection of our heart? Shouldn’t we put these problems before God and ask Him to help us see it with His eyes?
The best way to find peace in your heart as a homemaker is to give your heart over to Jesus each day. Ask Him to give you contentment in whatever life brings.
Figure out how to live in the moment with your kids and enjoy each stage they are in because it really does go fast. Also, be sure to figure out how to refuel. I visit with my family and friends often, get in a few workouts each week, and we will occasionally have a date night.
How do you find fulfillment in this beautiful mess of homemaking? I would love to hear from you in the comments below.
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